Wasn’t it a waste of time to try to reason with a narcissist?
Yes. The paradox of the letter is that I was asking a narcissist to not be narcissistic and empathize with me. This is like like asking a deaf person to describe sound. Futile. Continue reading
What can you do to fix us? I gave you one last chance and you pissed all over it, complaining about being disrespected as your urine splashed on the olive branch. But, despite all this, I still love you. Continue reading
Abracadabra, hocus pocus, alakazay;
It’s not what you do that matters, it’s what I say.
I called you a bitch and now you’re free,
of all annoying accountability. Continue reading
Considering I ignored the the hosts’ questions, told them they were wrong, and pretty much changed their show, I think it went went rather well. Continue reading
Don’t get me wrong, there is nothing wrong with the escapism of fiction. I can see where a woman reader would enjoy thinking about a group of hunky fireman admiring her beauty. Later, she’s pressed against a freshly waxed red truck as her blouse is ripped open. Continue reading
Likewise, it is the lady’s privilege to change her mind. The man, however, is only as good as his word. Continue reading
She thinks, because she is young and beautiful, that I should pursue her, and jump through these hoops so that in the end I might ‘get’ to have sex with her. Screw that! I want someone to desire me just as much as I desire them. Continue reading
Are you just being friendly? Or are you flirting? Does it even matter? Because in The New Rules of Flirting, the WSJ says that everyone flirts anyway. So if everyone flirts, when is it in bounds? When does flirting cross the line into out-of-bounds? Tough questions aren’t they? In true Smooth fashion, my over-analytical brain … Continue reading
I have spent the last six months philosophizing and theorizing about various aspects of dating on this blog. Along the way I have developed certain dating “rules”. As my relationship with H ends, it occurs to me that it is a good time to see how some my rules worked when actually put into practice … Continue reading
When Deliberately Delicious plays the Alphabet Game, she always parts on good terms by writing the nicest letters. My letters, on the other hand, seem to contain more…venom. Dear H, God I hope you end up going out with whoever got under your skin. I hope you go out with him long enough that I have a chance … Continue reading
It’s in the judge’s hands now. The divorce agreement is signed, sealed, and delivered to the court. Now we are waiting for my state’s 30 day “cooling off” period to expire. The cooling off period makes couples wait thirty days before divorces are made official. Theoretically, this gives spouses time to “cool off”before make important … Continue reading
The guru at redpilldating.com was kind enough to custom tailor some advice for me. I think his comment on the mental exhaustion that comes from game playing is spot on. I agree that the 5 or 5 rule is more of a guideline than a rule. However, I create guidelines for a reason. I find it best … Continue reading
Yesterday I wrote about how I should have handled this awkward situation. Unfortunately, that telling was merely a fantasy I only wish were true. Today I confess what actually happened. I should have known this was coming. How stupid of me to let my guard down and not be ready for this! I was just … Continue reading
Doesn’t “The Paramour Clause” sound like the title of a sexy John Grisham novel? Unfortunately, it is nothing as exciting as a best selling thriller. A Paramour clause is part of a divorce agreement that prohibits parents from having romantic activities while they are parenting their children. Specifically, no overnight guests in front of the children. OTHER NAMES … Continue reading
Originally posted on Free Northerner:
I have received a request to write on a topic. I’m always willing to entertain ideas for discussion on this blog, and if I believe I have time and anything of value to write concerning the issue, I’ll put something up. So, if any of my readers have something they’d…
Replacing me was so very easy for you– too easy, like buying a new part at the store. Proving that I was not special or unique, just another temporary presence. I am a ghost, and will always haunt. “Once in a lifetime love!” you sobbed with joy– what a fool I was to believe in … Continue reading
To cap off Smooth Reentry Blog’s friend-zone week, I will ask a question that has puzzled me since I first saw this video: Does this man know is own skin color? Also, Starbucks must love this guy. Can you say “high strung”? This guy is funny though. This is one of those that gets funnier … Continue reading
Originally posted on Free Northerner:
I enjoy reading advice columnists. I check out Dear Prudence at Slate and a couple columns from my local papers regularly and Dear Wendy on occasion. I do not read them for the advice. The advice tends to be either common-sense (don’t date that abusive, alcoholic, unemployed jerk seems to…
There is a large contingency of women in our country who don’t know when a date is a date. Oh, I wish I was joking. I truly do. I don’t pretend to understand the phenomenon, I can only report its existence. Gentlemen, you too need to be aware of this should you wish to avoid … Continue reading
By: Christie Hartman, PhD In honor of friendzone week, Smooth thought it prudent to seek opinion of a legitimate expert. Thanks to Dr. Hartman making a guest appearance here. The Friend Zone The Friend Zone refers to that place where someone you’re interested in likes you but doesn’t want to take the relationship to the next … Continue reading
If the Smooth Reentry blog were to end today, its legacy will be introducing the world to the Reverse Facebook Block (RFBB). The Reverse Facebook Block is an outstanding concept all social media users should become familiar with. I know that is a bold statement to make, but the RFBB is nothing short of magnificent. … Continue reading
Chin Up, Chest High usually brings a more balanced prospective to things than Smooth. Because he is an independent thinker, I thought I would reblog his thoughts on the friendzone.
Originally posted on Inkatheart:
An Ex is someone you’ve been emotionally, physically, and entirely connected to in the past. When ending a relationship, you might feel like or be advised to break up without resentment and get comfortable with being friends. While this works for some people, it doesn’t for…
The past couple of day’s we’ve discussed advanced tactics to counter friendzone attacks. This covered situations when she tries to banish you to the friendzone. During that series we did not cover scenarios in which the man failed to make a move early. Why is that scenario so different? Because if you didn’t make a … Continue reading
Do women get friend-zoned? If so, why don’t we ever read about it? My personal opinion is that women do, in fact, get friend zoned. Believe it or not I have put women in the friend-zone. The conditions are ripe for me friend-zoning a woman when she is still emotionally connected to different guy. When … Continue reading
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