When Flirting Goes Too Far

Are you just being friendly? Or are you flirting? Does it even matter? Because in The New Rules of Flirting, the WSJ says that everyone flirts anyway. So if everyone flirts,  when is it in bounds? When does flirting cross the line into out-of-bounds? Tough questions aren’t they? In true Smooth fashion, my over-analytical brain … Continue reading

Of Soap and Dysfunctional Communication

Of Soap and Dysfunctional Communication

Have you ever worked hard to communicate something important? With great effort you spend time agonizing over the perfect words to communicate your important thoughts. You carefully think through what you are going to say, choosing your words carefully…. When the big moment comes you pull it off and voice your thoughts precisely as intended. Uttering those words … Continue reading

Smooth’s Rules Put to Test

I have spent the last six months philosophizing and theorizing about various aspects of dating on this blog. Along the way I have developed certain dating “rules”. As my relationship with H ends, it occurs to me that it is a good time to see how some my rules worked when actually put into practice … Continue reading

Smooth Calls Out the Elephant

When Deliberately Delicious plays the Alphabet Game, she always parts on good terms by writing the nicest letters. My letters, on the other hand, seem to contain more…venom.  Dear H, God I hope you end up going out with whoever got under your skin. I hope you go out with him long enough that I have a chance … Continue reading

Top 10 Guns of Sci Fi

Yesterday I criticized Star Trek TNG for their Dustbuster looking sidearms. Star Trek has some unimpressive rifles too. So what do I consider good sci-fi weapons? I’m glad you asked… 10) Hornbill 9) Arc Gun 8) Battlestar Galactica Gun 7) Lea Blaster 6) Captain Mal’s Gun 5) Proton Pack   4) Blade Runner Gun 3) Pulse Rifle       … Continue reading

10 Things I Hate about Star Trek

10 Things I Hate about Star Trek

Maybe “hate” is too strong a word, but there is no way an over-analytical mind like mine can watch as much Star Trek as I have without developing some pet peeves. “Pet Peeves” just doesn’t sound as good in a blog post title, so I’m going to stick with 10 things I hate about Star Trek. Enjoy. … Continue reading

Is Gene Roddenberry Overrated?

I am sensitive to the fact that it sounds like sci-fi sacrilege to ask if Gene Roddenberry is overrated. I hate to sound disrespectful or indelicate, but I am convinced it is a fair question. RON MOORE INTERVIEW In researching the Top 10 Star Trek Voyager episodes, I stumbled across this excerpt from a StarTrek.com interview with Ron Moore: Thane … Continue reading

Top 10 Star Trek Voyager Episodes

Top 10 Star Trek Voyager Episodes

Today I will present the Top 10 Star Trek Voyager episodes. I was denied the ability to watch the Star Trek Voyager consistently when it originally aired. Luckily, glorious streaming media on Roku and Amazon Prime has allowed me to catch up on the series all these years later. Due to Admiral Janeway’s brief appearance in Star Trek Nemesis, I assumed … Continue reading

Staying on Target: Why I Blog

Staying on Target: Why I Blog

The stars are properly aligned for me to write a post on why I blog: The Smooth ReEntry blog is six months old now. A sixmonthivesary seems a fitting time to reexamine why I am here.  Additionally, as part of the 12 Step Challenge, I am to publically share my blogging goals.  Even more coincidentally, any second now I will … Continue reading

The Lucky Few

Blogging friend Ms. Panties is all fired up over her Twelve Step Challenge. Her enthusiasm is contagious, and with good reasons, for the Twelve Step Challenge is a damn good idea. Conceptually, Ms. Panties has my full support. I am all for enabling continuous improvement and peer support. As for the specific twelve steps? — I’m not … Continue reading

The Paramour Clause Revisted

The Paramour Clause Revisted

It’s in the judge’s hands now. The divorce agreement is signed, sealed, and delivered to the court. Now we are waiting for my state’s 30 day “cooling off” period to expire. The cooling off period makes couples wait thirty days before divorces are made official. Theoretically, this gives spouses time to “cool off”before make important … Continue reading

Rejected Big 10 Divisions

Originally posted on Feit Can Write:
On Friday, Big Ten Conference commissioner Jim Delaney announced that the much maligned Legends and Leaders divisions will mercifully go away for the 2014 season.  Legends and Leaders will be replaced by simple, geographically oriented divisions known simply as “East” and “West”. Thank God. Not only was the original…

My Heroes are Cowboys…and Authors

My Heroes are Cowboys…and Authors

I love the Western genre, of which Robert Duvall once said, “…the English have Shakespeare, the French have Molière, the Russians have Chekhov, and the Western is definitely ours.” Duvall starred in Lonesome Dove, the best coming of age movie ever made. It’s is like Steel Magnolias for men. If you need to teach your son … Continue reading

The Masters of Smooth

The Masters of Smooth

Yesterday I confessed to handling an awkward situation rather poorly. I got uptight, lost my cool, and was not smooth at at all. That little episode got me reminiscing of movie scenes in which men handled awkward situations gracefully. Smoothly, if you will. What follows are some samplings that came to mind, in no particular order, that … Continue reading

Red Pill Dating Guru Helps Smooth

Red Pill Dating Guru Helps Smooth

The guru at redpilldating.com was kind enough to custom tailor some advice for me. I think his comment on the mental exhaustion that comes from game playing is spot on. I agree that the 5 or 5 rule is more of a guideline than a rule. However, I create guidelines for a reason. I find it best … Continue reading

Should “Girlfriend” Status be the Final Destination?

Should “Girlfriend” Status be the Final Destination?

Studly manosphere blogger Free Northerner wrote an excellent post called Thoughts On Avoiding LTRs, in which he asserts that “girlfriend” is the no-man’s land of relationships. He makes the case that marriage or a sequence of short-term relationships are superior alternatives to having a “girlfriend”. He was expanding on his previous assertion that: If you’re looking … Continue reading

Busted: The Pinnacle of Awkward

Busted: The Pinnacle of Awkward

Yesterday I wrote about how I should have handled this awkward situation. Unfortunately, that telling was merely a fantasy I only wish were true. Today I confess what actually happened.  I should have known this was coming. How stupid of me to let my guard down and not be ready for this! I was just … Continue reading

Busted: Wife’s Coworkers See My Date

Busted: Wife’s Coworkers See My Date

They are staring at me. Intensely. My back is turned to them now. Although I can’t see them, I can still sense they are staring intensely at me, as if I’m some unimaginable monstrosity that has walked into their midst . As I talk to my date, I can practically feel their gazes burn holes in the back … Continue reading

The Paramour Clause

The Paramour Clause

Doesn’t “The Paramour Clause” sound like the title of a sexy John Grisham novel? Unfortunately, it is nothing as exciting as a best selling thriller. A Paramour clause is part of a divorce agreement that prohibits parents from having romantic activities while they are parenting their children.  Specifically, no overnight guests in front of the children. OTHER NAMES … Continue reading

Inspired to Blush

Thanks to Life of a Lover Girl for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award. It is always flattering to know someone actually reads my blog. I know I read Life of a Lover Girl’s, and can attest that she can make a grown man blush. She has some pretty sharp observations too that are fun to read. As for … Continue reading

Shout Outs Everyone Can Enjoy

As I kid, I never wrote a single chain letter. Nor have I ever forwarded the email ones (remember the Bill Gates hoax?). You know, the ones old people with no internet sense used to send you….I’ve also never participated in any of the Facebook shout out type activities that are pervasive there. But the … Continue reading

Dating and Verbalization

Dating and Verbalization

Originally posted on Free Northerner:
I have received a request to write on a topic. I’m always willing to entertain ideas for discussion on this blog, and if I believe I have time and anything of value to write concerning the issue, I’ll put something up. So, if any of my readers have something they’d…

Five Cool Blogs You Should Follow

Five Cool Blogs You Should Follow

Here are five blogs I enjoy, and you’re missing out if you don’t follow them too! 1) REBUILDING ROB – Similar to me in that he is separated and getting divorced. Not similar in that he actually knows how to write. Seriously, this is a better blog. It is private, so you will have to request access. If … Continue reading