Filed under Divorce

The Paramour Clause Revisted

The Paramour Clause Revisted

It’s in the judge’s hands now. The divorce agreement is signed, sealed, and delivered to the court. Now we are waiting for my state’s 30 day “cooling off” period to expire. The cooling off period makes couples wait thirty days before divorces are made official. Theoretically, this gives spouses time to “cool off”before make important … Continue reading

The Paramour Clause

The Paramour Clause

Doesn’t “The Paramour Clause” sound like the title of a sexy John Grisham novel? Unfortunately, it is nothing as exciting as a best selling thriller. A Paramour clause is part of a divorce agreement that prohibits parents from having romantic activities while they are parenting their children.  Specifically, no overnight guests in front of the children. OTHER NAMES … Continue reading

Redflagged and Banished to the Friendzone

Redflagged and Banished to the Friendzone

Next week is friend-zone week here at the Smooth Reentry Blog. That’s right, all next week will be dedicated to discussing the hated friendzone. It will be friend-zone discussion galore! Next week I’m going to publish, what I believe to be, my best written post to date. It is on the subject of unfriending on … Continue reading

Are You Blinded By Love of Your Pet?

Years ago my Ex and I got our first dog, a young Boston Terrier. Like many young couples are prone to do, we treated the pet like our first child. We spoiled that animal rotten. Our reason for being was to tend to the animal’s every need and make it happy. We thought it was … Continue reading

To Cologne, or Not to Cologne…

Traditionally, I have never worn cologne. It just isn’t my style. But recently I was recalling a woman I dated many years ago who begged me to wear cologne as she loved it. If all women were like her I would bath in it every day. However, apparently not all women love cologne. While on … Continue reading

The Wagging Tail That Wasn’t There

The Wagging Tail That Wasn’t There

This is a personal journal entry with random thoughts as I spend Thanksgiving alone. As I’ve progressed through the process of separation continuing into divorce, women will frequently ask me, “How are you doing?”. My standard answer is that I’m doing fine. To which they reply “well, it’s coming” as they give me a look … Continue reading

Adultry’s Double Standard

Wow! This double standard had never occurred to me. Kudos to Tom Matlock for pointing it out! From Tiger Woods and Jesse James to LeAnn Rimes and Jennifer Lopez, there’s an adultery double standard — The Good Men Project.   Related articles Double Standards & Relationships… (thekinshiplounge.wordpress.com) Is There A Double Standard For Cheating? (mix1041.cbslocal.com) … Continue reading

How Good is Good Enough? (Pt. 1 of 2)

This is a true “web-log” entry recounting my personal experience as I reenter with world of dating. I created this blog to purge these thoughts from my mind, regardless of who reads them. I am SO UNCOMFORTABLE doing this, and yet I know it is therapeutic to get it out of my mind. I will … Continue reading

The Self Portrait Picture Delimma

The Self Portrait Picture Delimma

FACT: I have lived under a social rock for 18 years with very boring social life. FACT: As news of my divorce begins to spread, women and their friends will check me out on Facebook, Linked-In, and any other available sites, including okCupid soon. FACT: A public image makeover is in order in order to … Continue reading

Escaping Purgatory (Pt II, Main)

Click here to read my rambling preview, an attempt to work into the Escaping Purgatory topic… What is marriage purgatory? Marriage purgatory is when you know your marriage is done but still live in the same house. For many many practical reasons, couples get stuck in marriage purgatory. I actually have two clients who are … Continue reading

Escaping Purgatory (Pt 1, Preview)

This morning I am going to take a step outside my comfort zone. I am going to talk about personal stuff. My nose is literally crunched up as I type as if there is a terrible smell in the room. There is not really a bad smell of course–it is just an involuntary Pavlov’s reaction … Continue reading

Closed Minds and Short Fuses

Here is some advice from online dating expert Rachel DeAlto, “…Keep an open mind”. It is amazing how many woman avoid me like the plague because I have “separated” status. Hey–I understand. My status isn’t sexy. My status is full of buzz-killing pragmatic issues. We’re talking real-world crap that you’ll never see in a Disney … Continue reading