Here is the Relationship Matrix you have been waiting for. This is a relationship evaluation tool you can use to quickly analyze a situation and find out where your relationship stands. Do you have hope for the future? Are going to be mind fucked? Should you go out with Tom, Dick, or Harry? This tool should help you sort-out your thoughts. Click Here for a prettier Word document.
|What he is to you|
|What you are to him||No Commit||Trade In||Upgrade|
|Upgrade||1) Stage 5 Clinger||2) No harm||3) Synced.|
|Trade In||4) Fire Alarm||5) Mutual||6) Bail|
|No Commit||7) Potential||8) User||9) Stalker|
1) Stage 5 Clinger – You are a potential upgrade to him. He is No-Commit to you. This means you have fallen in deep way before him. You are probably acting like a Stage 5 Clinger. Get your shit together.
2) No Harm, No Foul –He is a trade in to you, you are a potential upgrade to him. Low risk.
3) Synced – You are both getting to know each other. Move forward slowly.
4) Fire Alarm—You are about to get burned. Broken heart imminent. Stock up on Kleenex.
5) Mutual Users – You are both using each other in a transition relationship that has no future. Perfectly acceptable.
6) Bail – He is potential upgrade for you. You are trade-in to him. Cut your losses and move on. Find a new potential upgrade that has a higher opinion of you before you get any deeper.
7) Potential – You are both stuck in “no commit” trying to figure out what the other is thinking but scared to be the first to put your feelings out there. One of you needs to break the awkwardness and discuss being exclusive or even use the “L word”.
8) User – He is in deeper than you. You are using him even though he adores you. When you break up he will call you a player and you need to be a big enough person to take his venting—because he is right. You played him and burned him.
9) Stalker– He is in head over heels for you and you barely know the guy. Buy a security system.
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