I agree that the 5 or 5 rule is more of a guideline than a rule. However, I create guidelines for a reason. I find it best to think through my personal boundaries in advance and stick to them, as opposed to being wishy-washy and making stuff up as I go. There has to be some litmus test if the relationship has potential based on well thought-out criteria, not just emotion of the moment. For me, if after after five weeks and five dates we aren’t frothing at the mouth to jump on each other, that is a red flag that the chemistry isn’t right for one reason or another. So I am going to stick to my 5 or 5 rule.
I greatly appreciate Red Pill’s advice. He makes some great observations. However, I was hoping for more specific action steps to take in order to maximize the chances of this thing working out. Yes, frankly, I want to be an ass and manipulate the situation as much as I can to get my way. That’s right, I’m a typical guy that thinks with his dick at times.
I think the answer lies in making her know that there is a time limit without ever saying a word. Just making her feel it by my actions and not words. I feel that is the answer to my dilemma. I just don’t know HOW to do that. Yet.
Please read the post and tell me what you think….